Untangling

Have you ever been in love?
You know, the giggly, joyous, painful, deep, spring-like, kiddish puppy love, intoxicating, the spiritual-bond, lovey-dovey, bubbly based on the whole person, kind.

Your love’s eyes transform into searching amber jewels.
Their face becomes the most entrancing, curiously, overwhelmingly handsome thing in the world.

Their hug is like a calm pillow, like the Teddy Bear you held at moments you were lonely.
Their hands are the best thing in the world to hold, reassuring and fun.

You smile instantly when you see your love coming around the corner.
So matching are your personalities. So pleasant you feel when you together.
You become so attached….so addicted….
Easily, you can forget. You can forget who loves you the most.

You want everything to fall into place with this person; you want no troubles to occur.

But you are hit with a reality you know but struggle to realize in your human heart.

Your relationship with a person can be warm and comforting, loving and beautiful.

But no matter how blessed that relationship is…it cannot fill all the hurts and pains and questions wallowing in your heart.

A person can make you laugh, but they cannot bring peace to your soul.
You think that they should be able to make you ‘incandescently happy’ forever, as Elizabeth Bennett describes in the most recent production of Pride and Prejudice.

But people are not perfect and cannot have perfect love. People will let you down.

You cannot let a person dictate who you are.

Your relationship may bring you many smiles and squeals of giddiness.

But in the end, if you perceive them as the answer to all of your dying questions, you will be let down.

If you think that they will fulfill you in every way, if you think that they are the missing substance to make you eternally joyous about who you are as a person…you may be missing a sparkling ingredient that makes life make sense, that makes you make sense, that gives you an eternal purpose.

God is your best love.

He is the best source to fulfill your every hurt longing in your heart. He is perfect and He knows your favorite color without even having to learn it for the first time. He knows what smells bother you. He even knows the number of hairs on your head.

God is always there to rescue you. He is the one you should turn to for your identity, not another person.

Relationships are supposed to reflect God’s relationship with us. God is our husband. He loves us, takes care of us.

Give Jesus a date. Use Him as your soul’s Teddy Bear. You will find that he is the best man for the job.